Courtship is an interesting time to get to know a person whom you are really interested about much better. But it really takes effort if you want to have a successful Christian courtship which hopefully would lead to marriage. Here are some secrets that can help you on your way to a courtship that is right in the eyes of God and can hopefully lead to marriage.
Love may be a word that is easily thrown out there when it comes to relationship. But how many of these couples do really know what love really means? As a Christian, you are blessed that you are fully aware of the kind of love which you can emulate. And this is the unselfish love that Christ gave to us. Right there is a perfect demonstration of love, and it is very clearly enumerated in I Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Respect is a product of genuine love. A successful Christian relationship springs out of two people who respect each other and their boundaries. Respect also means that they would not consciously do anything that would hurt the other.
What leads to a successful Christian courtship is the readiness of both involved. When your sights are not set on having a serious relationship and the possibility of marriage, then it is best that you hold off on dating. Emotions are not anything that is for play that is why you should be very careful when you decide to exclusively date someone. Continuously pray for enlightenment and wisdom.
One of the factors that can help lead to a successful Christian courtship is to involve other people into the relationship. Talk to a pastor, another Christian couple, or other church members. Talk to them if you are having weak moments, or if you need encouragement, or follow the good example radiated in the loves of these people. This will give you a rich experience spiritually as a couple, which creates a strong foundation in your relationship.
Guard Your Heart
Proverbs 4:23 says that, “Above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.” As a couple, you should pray that the Holy Spirit keep you from temptation or lustful thoughts. Let constant prayer cleanse your heart from any hint of wrong intentions, but rather steer it into things that are pure and will bless you and your partner.
Most of Hollywood and even typical divorces often cite “irreconcilable differences” as the main cause for the dissolution of marriage. That is why during the season of courtship, it is important that you develop that understanding character. This may be very difficult, but ask God, to give you the patience to understand. And pray that He continue His work in you because understanding is something that you have to constantly learn even in marriage. This will help avoid heated arguments or blowing off your fuses at the smallest things.
Talking is communication, and yes the two of you may talk for hours on end on the phone, but are you really coming through especially on those things that really mattered? Open an honest and non-judgmental line of communication. Don’t let assumptions rule over your relationship because this would often lead to unmet expectations and then resentment. Talk and also know how to listen. Christian dating should not make any room for harsh tones and language; let your conversation flow out of love and the higher good of the other person.