Gay Life 101: Tips for Newbies

There’s nothing quite as sweet as the feeling of freedom and accomplishment that comes along with coming out of the closet. You have eventually rid yourself of the burden of lies and hiding, and can now enjoy life as an openly gay person. This is a great achievement, as there are many people out there who take years to come out of the closet. And then of course there are those who never strike up the courage to be who they really are. Although you’re almost certainly itching to get out there and experience all that the gay lifestyle has to offer, there are a few things you should be aware of. Here are some helpful guidelines, for making your transition a smooth one.

Don’t be a crazy newbie – Now that you’ve entered this fabulous world, I’m sure you want to see and experience everything it has to offer. That’s great. I like your enthusiasm, nevertheless, you must take it one step at a time. Newbies tend to be a little bit, to say this politely – insane. You’re thrilled and you want to do everything, but don’t try to squeeze a lifetime of gayness into your first month as an openly gay person. Take your time. Enjoy what the gay community has to offer, but pace yourself. And try not to get yourself into too much trouble.

Stay single – You’re embarking on a new part of your life, and the last thing you want to do is saddle yourself with a serious relationship. And let’s face it, you’re not ready anyway. Most gays and lesbians really don’t want to be too emotionally involved with newbies anyway. They are still finding out who they are, and getting accustomed to gay life. Most of the seasoned players are unlikely to be keen to associate themselves with newbies’ problems and issues; they’ve been through it before and they’re glad to be done with that phase of their lives. So take this opportunity to be your own person, discover who you really are and what is important to you. And a few months down the road, when the time is right, you might just be able to find someone special whom you can connect with.

Use protection – Just because you’re a newbie doesn’t make you almighty. Don’t think that you can’t catch and STD just because it’s your first time. You may be as pure as the freshly fallen snow, but that doesn’t mean it’s your partner’s first time around the block. Always use protection – Period. You should carry protection around with you at all times. Hey, you never know what could develop, and you don’t want to miss out on an opportunity, or worse, do something thoughtless, just because you don’t have protection with you. Being gay is like being in the Boy Scouts, you always need to be prepared!

Be safe – There are more personal safety issues than just safe sex within the gay community. First off, there are numerous aspects of gay life that tend to a bit debaucherous. Without a doubt, most of us love clubbing, dancing, sipping on cocktails, or possibly using stronger substances. You need to be careful. It’s a fine line between life of the party and lifetime substance abuser. Have fun, but not excessively.

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