G’day. My girlfriend broke up with me for about 1.5 years. I was so happy with this girl but in the end, we she broke it off with me because she thought that we were just too different. Only because she was Asian and I was Hispanic. I was willing to spend the rest of my life with this girl but she wasn’t.
She came over one day and I admit, I was looking to “get lucky” with her. Instead, the unluckiest thing could have happened. As I was pulling the moves on her, she turned away from me and said, “sorry, I can’t do this to you anymore. I don’t want to hurt you.” We were a year apart. I was studying at uni and her in Year 12 at high school. Still, I saw less and less of her.
I tried desperately to get her back. I remember putting a photo of her and me on my desktop as my background. It gave me hope. I gave her two weeks for a cooling off period and during that time, I bought a scrap book and filled it up with pictures and stories of the happy times we’d had. I now realize that it came off as desperate and really killed my chances of getting back together with her.
That was back in February 2009. It’s now September 2010. As I’m writing this, I’m also chatting to my beautiful girlfriend… yes, the one who was my ex, all thanks to this dude. I’ve been meaning to write this for a while, just to get everything out and to hopefully inspire people to never give up on love.
I was on Facebook, just killing time. I’d just finished a uni assignment and my mind drifted to my ex. I hated dropping in on her profile because usually, it was filled with pictures of guys she was seeing. I preferred to look at photos we took back then. The one I had as my desktop background was my favourite. The sunlight was behind us. Everything seemed right.
My mates did what they could to make me forget her. They thought she was an idiot for dumping me. They didn’t know her like I did. She was beautiful and was a real family woman, the kind of woman I’d love to make my wife in the not-too-distant future.
I went from a student who had a scholarship back in school to bottom of the class at uni, just because I couldn’t get my mind off her. We actually had a class together at one point when she graduated from high school. Talk about awkward!
Our anniversary was on the 16th of June. It would’ve been our 2 year anniversary in just this June past. I was tired of thinking about her. There could be guys out there vying for her right now. I’m the one she wants. I just had to show her that. I went to the Internet for advice, typing into Google, “I want to get my ex back even thought it’s been a year”. Stupidly long, I know, but there was a fair bit of information.
There was so much crap online. People who were claiming to be experts and that. In the end, I whittled it down to just this one guy who lived in the US. He was in the army and travelled a lot, so he learnt a lot about communication and people. His site was pretty long; I scrolled down it, scanning everything. He had videos, testimonials and stuff like that. Looked pretty good until I got to the bottom. $39 to download his advice. Now remember. I was in uni. That was a lot of money to me. I also live in Australia and the conversion rate meant I would be paying nearly $50. I didn’t have a job, only Youth Allowance (sort of like social security for students).
His videos seemed to make sense. There was one where he talked about the opening move you should use to persuade your ex to get back with you. I watched it and it actually made sense. He knew what he was talking about.
There’s a bit about midway down the page where he outlines just exactly what’s in his e-book. There was one in particular that made me pretty skeptical, the “Instant Reconnect Technique”. Apparently, this technique would let me “trick” my ex into thinking we were still together. What is this, mind control? Hypnosis? Bah.
I was arguing with myself for a good half an hour but in the end, on a whim, I used the money that I was saving up for my 21st birthday on this e-book. I am so bloody glad that I clicked that “Add To Cart” button.
No prizes for guessing which technique I flipped to immediately as soon as the download link was sent to me. That Instant Reconnect Technique on Page 43. I couldn’t stop the smile from creeping over my face as my eyes darted through the lines of text on the screen. The whole point of the IR Technique was to treat your ex as if you were still dating them. That’s it.
This is how it went down. I got the courage to call her up for lunch during a Tuesday (that was the time we both had off at uni). At the cafe we were eating at, we just chatted idly and I offhandedly said, “Baby Bear, use your napkin!” (that was what I used to call her when we were dating. She eyed me quizzically. I just looked at her and said, “What? You’re my girlfriend after all.” Her eyes opened up wide then I laughed. “Just kidding. Hehe.”
I received a call from her later that night just before I started studying. Apparently, that statement triggered a lot of feelings she’d forgotten since she broke it off with me. I was getting happier and happier and after we hung up, I’d just arranged a new time to meet up with her. THANK YOU T DUB!
We were officially back together on the 29th of July, 2010. I still smile stupidly when I see that confirmation on her profile on Facebook “In a relationship”, knowing that it’s with me. It’s all been so quick but I feel like I’m floating happily amongst the clouds.
I sent an email to T Dub, thanking him for his advice in his e-book. If I hadn’t purchased it back then, I wouldn’t be back together with Kate now. You probably wouldn’t be reading this story now, either.
I can’t wait to see what she’s got planned for my 21st…