There are thousands of online dating sites on the Internet – and I’ve joined many of them myself – but I’ve had my best results with free online dating services where the only investment is my imagination.
There are many other advantages to free online dating sites too. For one thing, you can target your audience in single cities – or even in neighborhoods – and getting your ads online can be accomplished in less than 10 minutes!
Take Craigs List for example. This is a bulletin board service which allows free posts in hundreds of cities throughout the world. And because Craigs List has virtually no limit on the number of words in your ads, you can truly get creative and write up a storm – and literally dazzle your audience line by line.
That’s exactly what I’ve done myself. I’ve been meeting women online for more than 15 years and I’ve placed hundreds of ads worldwide. But I always come back to the Bulletin Board ads for their convenience, flexibility, and almost immediate gratification.
Here are some observations – and online dating tips – when using free internet dating strategies like mine.
My Advice For Women
Ladies, there are thousands of “professionals” using free online dating services too. So you’ll want to distinguish your ads from those with more commercial interests at heart. My advice to you is to include sufficient detail in your ads so the guys make no mistake about their knowing you’re for real.
Some of the dead giveaways of a “professional” type ad is that they’re generally rather short (five sentences for example) and they often sound too much like a “formula.” For example:
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“I moved into this new neighborhood recently…been really bored. I want to meet some new guys. I am sick of flings. I am sick of getting my heart broken. My ex-boyfriend was a jerk and I just want to meet nice guy. I’m crossing my fingers that this new experience online will work out. I am loving person and just want to meet ‘Mr. Right’ if there is such a thing.”
The first thing you’ll notice about the ad above are the grammatical errors. This by itself isn’t necessarily a red flag, but when you combine this with the lack of detail and originality – with no reference whatsoever to anything that would tie the author to this city – what starts to crystallize is the possibility that whomever submitted this ad isn’t necessarily looking for a relationship!
So my first suggestion is to let go of the stereotypical five-sentence Online Personal Ad – and instead write more from the heart – including details which clearly communicate that you’re a real person!
When writing ads to meet men, provide enough detail to show a man that you’ve got a variety of interests – but don’t write in a demanding way, listing dozens of qualifications he must have before dropping you a line. That practice, which I’ve seen often enough, is a real turn-off to the guys. You don’t want to give men the impression that you’re conducting interviews for a job – unless you don’t care if many of the higher caliber men simply click off your ad and search for a warmer climate down the page.
My Advice for Men
Hey guys, listen up! Everyone knows that men want sex – so what else is new? But there’s no reason to broadcast this in your ads! Keep the language “poetic” if you catch my drift here. Women generally aren’t as blunt as guys are, especially in writing or responding to ads. But this doesn’t make women frigid. Talk in metaphors; use colorful imaginative language. Or better yet, make only a fleeting reference to sex in your ads – and do so in one sentence that you combine with something more emotional too.
Here’s an example of what NOT to do:
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“so just thought i would see if there are any fun loving girls out there who are down to gettin to know a good clean drama free guy…. looking to meet up every now and than for a nice hot passionate session…”
This dude gets right to the point, doesn’t he.
When it comes to online dating, don’t let your hormones get the better of you guys! Women want loving just like we do, but generally they’re not as blatant about it, that’s all.
Instead, write about your interests outside of the bedroom. Charm your readers with your accomplishments… mention books you like to read… or include something funny. Women love it when a guy can make her laugh! So if you can be that guy, you’ll score more points than the writer above, any day.
My Advice to Everyone
An imaginative, original ad is your fastest road to success with Online Dating. Some of my quirkiest ads have given me my best results (i.e., the greatest number of replies). Create a unique “persona” for yourself in each ad and you’ll not only have your readers laughing, you’ll get some really appreciate comments too. Isn’t that what the syndicated comics do? And think about how many people are reading them – week after week!