She’s your good friend. You like her and you want to let her know how you feel. But you’re afraid of losing a good friend. How do you proceed?
If she doesn’t already know that you are a lesbian, you need to first come out to her. Its never easy telling someone you like them. This places you in a vulnerable position of not knowing whether they will reject you or even end your friendship. What’s important is that you remain friends even if she does not feel the same way as you do.
Be confident and strong when you tell her how you feel. Once you have bared your feelings to her, try and keep your nerve and avoid revealing too much. Listen to her and what she says in response. Don’t be alarmed if she says “that’s sweet, but I don’t feel the same way”. On the contrary, this is a good response to receive as it shows you that she has not rejected your friendship. She simply doesn’t want a romantic relationship with you.
Many people get rejected in various ways everyday, so you are not alone. Don’t be devastated but remain confident. Just like everything else in life – you win some – you lose some. With this right attitude, you will be able to handle any more episodes of rejection in the future. Chances are, at one time or another, you too have had to reject friends who expressed their interest in you, but you only valued them as friends. So it’s never the end of the world if you get rejected. And then again, she could very well admit to feeling the same way so do not necessarily expect the worst.