Dating takes on all forms. Humans search high and low for that special person.
Why do dating sites work? What’s wrong with finding a soulmate naturally?
Simply looking online is much better.
It’s the chance to putting yourself over based upon what you are as an individual. Rather than idle chatter or trivia. No, instead you can put the real you into words. It is an introduction not an advertisement.
Online dating services expand your immediate circle. Whether you are looking for a soul mate or a casual friend for fun, they’re out there just waiting for you. In a rural setting or for the busy professional, the pickings can be very slim, so the online dating sites beckon with their rich offerings of a multitude of people.
What if you are in a special category? What if religious beliefs, age, minority status or special needs are part of your romantic makeup? Some online dating either provide or are solely set up as special niches of people that share your values, your background or your special requirements. Some sites eliminate the guesswork for you, putting you through a battery of personality tests and quizzes. Then they “introduce” you to compatible people.
Be prepared to be intrigued and awed. What may start out as a casual interest as you browse through several profiles may become a path of enlightenment as you find yourself responding. Or you may be the adventurous type who decides “why not?” only to find several responses to your own profile which can be heady or make you dizzy depending on your personality.
Go ahead and test the dating waters. Stick in that shaky toe. Imagine you find someone that appeals to you. Before you know it, emails are zinging back and forth and you have found someone you can connect with on a deeper level. It is non-threatening, convenient and discreet.
When using an online dating site remember, you are only as appealing as your profile. Take the time and effort to write something interesting. Let the world know what a special individual you are. Don’t say you have a sense of adventure, talk about the hang-gliding weekend you spent in Hawaii or the hiking trail story. Same with a sense of humor. Don’t say you have one, write something funny. This is your chance to showcase who you are.
They say a photograph says more than a thousand words. Post a natural photo that shows you at your best. Avoid using that one great photo from twenty years ago. There’s nothing worse than seeing a photo of a person and than have your retinas charred when you finally see the real thing.
Take your time but don’t fall into the trap of just emailing and phoning. Chemistry is a very real factor in mating and relationship. You may fall in love with the person based on their words, thoughts, and talk to them for months without actually seeing them. This doesn’t allow the physical chemistry to stay in lockstep with your other senses. You cannot back sexual chemistry into the equation. It’s meant to be upfront and a first impression. Remind yourself that a crucial physical step is taking place through a computer screen and a keyboard. Meet that intriguing person in a neutral place like a coffee shop or a shopping mall. It gives you a chance to further the relationship or turn down the dial if it isn’t what you had hoped.