Your Marriage and the Blended Family

Step families and blended families are the same thing. It just sounds better to say blended. In a blended family, or step family, one or both partners have been married before. One or both has lost a spouse through divorce or death, and may have children from the previous marriages. They fall in love and decide to remarry. One of the biggest mistakes the new couple makes is assuming that the second marriage will have the same problems as the first.

Our first exposure to step families has been poor. We had Cinderella and the evil step mother and step sister. How scary is that? Then we have the Brady Bunch who seemed to have had the perfect relationships. This is not how it really happens.

Approximately one-third of all children in the United States will be part of a blended family before they reach the age of eighteen. Children at first may rebel against the new family but eventually they will come around. Make sure you communicate to the children how much you love them and how you know it will work.

Remember parents that your children have already been through the trauma of a divorce and have had the difficult job of trying to adjust to life with only one parent. It has been a real adjustment for them and now you are asking them to adjust again. This new relationship and family life will take a lot of patience, time, understanding, communication, time alone, love and a sense of humor can always make things easier.

Give the kids as much time as they need (within reason) to adjust to the new step family life. Communicate openly and Communicate openly and honestly. Make sure that you still spend time with your children alone as well as making time for your step children. Spending time with your step children can be helpful too. It gives you a chance to get to know them.

Make sure that you still spend time with your children alone as well as making time for your step children. Spending time with your step children can be helpful too. It gives you a chance to get to know them.

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